Do any of us ever really leave the fourth grade?
On Saturday nights, I volunteer for the local crisis hotline. Well, this past weekend, I got there early (unusual for me, since I usually get there about 5 minutes before my shift starts), and happened to start chatting with the two gals that were on the volunteer shift before me. At first it was normal office junk - what kind of calls we'd been having for the evening, etc., and then it got into more personal stuff, like one of the gals was asking me about how my singing was going. (I'm a singer, in case I haven't mentioned it before)
At any rate, one of the gals just "happens" to mention that she knows there's a certain hotline volunteer who has a crush on me. Now, I don't know about any of you, my dear readers, but when someone tosses that kind of thing out onto the floor, I'm gonna pick that ball up and take a look at it. She apparently did
not expect that reaction (what planet is she from anyhow?) and was surprised as all get out when I started grilling her for details.
At first she started waffling (well, I never said it was another volunteer... no, I never said it was a guy... I didn't say it was a
crush... that kind of crap). And, of course, the other volunteer who was on shift with her started in on her too, trying to get the information on my behalf. The paid staff member on duty with us that evening admitted that she knew what the first gal had said was true, and she had known it for months but never would have said anything for precisely this reason - smart girl! Just as I thought I was starting to get somewhere on finding out who it was, the hotline phone rang. Frustrated and annoyed at the whole "crush" conversation, I decided I would answer it, and began talking with the person who had called in on the crisis line.
As I was talking to the person who called in, I could hear the conversation/argument escalating in the background to the point where I had to plug my non-phone ear just so I could hear what the person on the phone was saying and be able to respond intelligently. Meanwhile, the volunteer gal who was on "my side" was passing me notes (!!!) about what the other gal had given up as far as information. Eventually, the sound in the background died down enough that I could unplug my non-phone ear and my conversation with the hotline caller wrapped up. When I turned around, both of the volunteers from the previous shift were gone, leaving only me and the paid staff member.
Based on the information I had gotten from the notes passed to me (!!!) as well as my initial instinct, I guessed who it was and asked the paid staff member if I was correct. While she neither officially confirmed nor denied, I could tell that I had guessed correctly.
It's very flattering to know someone has a crush on me, but knowing really doesn't change anything because a) I'm actively staying single for at least another month and a half, b) he is living with his female partner and their couple of kids and c) even if he were single, I'm not sure I would be interested. I just found the whole conversation to be so very... elementary school. The whole "I know something about you that you don't" thing really bugs the crap out of me and I would have been really mad if I hadn't found out.
So, folks, the moral of the story here is... if you have a secret you don't want me to know, don't dangle it in front of my face.